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A Strong Word Every Leader Must Learn

Something every leader whether in Church or a secular job must know. It’s short and to the point. I recommend that you read it.

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How To Stay Married A Long Long Time. Part 3

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Before I get into the nuts and bolts of marriage I must tell you that when I use the word marriage I mean one man married to one woman.Based on what I’ve told you in the first two installments of this series you may now be asking the question. How have you stay married for so long?

#1 Jesus Christ is the Lord of our lives. I didn’t say we were perfect but I must tell you that the growing up and growing together process would have been much more difficult had it not been for our faith and Christian friends.

Maybe your not into Christianity and you don’t want me pushing my faith on you but you must know, if you are going to read my writings that I am a born again Christian. My whole existence as a person is saturated by and revolves around my relationship with Jesus.

I’m not only a Christian, I just happen to be a pastor. That’s right! For twenty-nine years I have been a Christian preacher. Twenty-Seven of those years I have spent in full time preaching ministry.

I have been preaching/teaching, counseling, coaching, and dealing with people long enough that I am convinced that marriage outside of Christianity is much more difficult. I am so convinced that I have some very strict guidelines that must be met before I will perform a wedding ceremony.

  • The prospective bride and groom must me born again Christians:  That’s right. I will not perform weddings for individuals who are not. I will not perform wedding ceremonies when a Christian is marrying a non-Christian.
  • The prospective bride and groom must be actively involved in a Christian church and attending regularly before they get married.

Felicia and I are very devoted to our God and our service to him. I don’t know for sure but I wonder if we would still be married without our faith.

I’m going to give you all kinds of information and advice in the area of marriage in the post to come. I will not let you forget that it all rest on a foundation of serving Jesus Christ.

Leave me a story about your marriage or ask questions. I’ll do my best to include answers in my next post.

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How To Stay Married a Long Long Time. Part 2

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Felicia and I celebrated our thirty-third anniversary last week and that prompted me to write this blog, How to stay married a long, long time. I don’t think that thirty-three years is a long, long time.  I do however know people whose marriages meet that criteria.

Felicia and I both had grandparents who were married over fifty years before one or the other passed away. Both sets of our parents have celebrated fifty years, and I might as well go ahead and say it, I don’t think that in today’s world thirty-three years is too shabby.

In my last post I told you that the bliss of our dating life lasted about one week into our marriage and then it began. What began? You ask. The process of having to grow up together began and it wasn’t easy.

At seventeen and nineteen, neither one of us had come even close to mature enough to be married. We had different ideas as to what marriage should look like and I must confess to you that even thirty-three years later we still have differences of opinions on that subject.  I have come more and more into her corner in agreeing with her. There is saying and I use it just as a point of humor.  Men, do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?

In that first year we fought. What did we fight about? EVERYTHING! What happened? That meek, quite little girl who I dated, who never had a different opinion than me suddenly had an opinion and because we are so different it was almost always different from mine and of course I was sure that I was always right. I would also handle her anger by provoking her to even more anger. Doesn’t sound good does it? No! I’m not proud of it. I’m just being painfully honest. Remember I was only nineteen.

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Opposites Attract.”  Felicia and I were and are madly in love but we are very opposite in a lot of ways. Over the thirty-three year marriage we have had to learn how to live with with our differences. We are still madly in love. She is my best friend, my life partner and my everything.

You must know that if anything I’ve written to this point puts her in a bad light it isn’t intentional. I would be the first to admit that in marriage she got the raw end of the deal.

Over the next few post I’m going to tell you how we stay stitched together. How we have stayed married for thirty-three years and will stay married until death separates us.

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Steve Wozniak predicts lots of problems for cloud storage
By Shawn Knight
August 7, 2012

To say that Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak isn’t a fan of cloud storage would be a considerable understatement. Following a showing of Mike Daisey’s one-man monologue known as The Agony and Ecstasy of Steve Jobs last week, the Woz voiced his opinion with regards to storing personal data off-site and the trouble that lies ahead.

In short, Wozniak said he thinks the idea of everything going to the cloud is horrendous and there will be a lot of problems within the next five years. The problem, as he highlights, is that cloud users forfeit ownership of their data – it’s signed away the moment you agree to an EULA. He wants to feel like he owns things and that people tend to believe that because they access stuff from their computer, it’s still theirs.


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My 2012 Book Reading Log

In addition to the Bible which I read daily, many magazine articles, blog post and more these are books that I have read this year, 2012, how I rate them on a 1-10 scale and a link to them at where I buy all my books. They are all rated pretty high. I’m sure that’s because my reading is done on a recommendation basis. I read books that people I respect recommend. This list will be updated from time to time.

1. Killing Lincoln, Bill O’Reilly  (10) 294 pages, Excellent, historical book written in a very entertaining way.

2. The Circle Maker, Mark Batterson (10) 215 pages, again an excellent book. This time on the subject of prayer.

3. Fasting, Jentzen Franklin (7) 230 pages. Good book for getting acquainted with the subject of fasting.

4. The Fasting Edge, Jentzen Franklin (5) 230 pages. It’s ok just more of the same from the first book on fasting.

5. Change, Count on It , Bill McDonald (10) 187 pages. Good book on faith and doing a work for God. I quote this book in my book. No link available but you can find my book The Eye of a Needle.

6. Weird, Craig Groeschel (9) 238 pages.

7. Radical, David Platt (9) 217 pages. Read this book only if you are serious about your relationship with God.

8. Soul Print, Mark Batterson (10) 165 pages. This book helped me a lot. It helps you be ok with being you.

9. Crazy Love, Francis Chan (10) 186 pages. This is another one of those books that you need to read if you are a radical, sold out Christian or want to be.

10. Think, John Piper (4) 184. I really like John Piper but this book was a hard read for me. I had to make myself finish it.

11. Beyond Justice, Joshua Graham (10) 430 pages. I accidentally downloaded this book to the Kindle app on my iPad thinking I was purchasing a John Grisham book. I was well into this book when I realized that it wasn’t a Grisham book but by then the book had me gripped. This is an awesome, legal thriller with Christianity in it. If you like fiction.READ IT!

12. Primal, Mark Batterson (8) 208 pages. I have read all of Mark Batterson’s books and recommend them all. The only reason I gave it an 8 is because I realized that I was give so many 10″s.

13. Wild Goose Chase, Mark Batterson (8) 174 pages. Ditto to the above.

14. The Broker, John Grisham (9) 422 pages. I love to read Grisham books. 

15. Governors of Praise, Joshua Fowler 157 pages. Disclaimer: Joshua Fowler is my cousin so no rating.

16. Not A  Fan,Kyle Idleman (9) 200 pages. Good book on being a follower of Christ.

17. Steve Jobs, Walter Isaacson (9) 571 pages. I like biographies and I was very interested in the whole Apple and Steve Jobs thing. It was very detailed and very eye opening.

18. Spirit Rising,Jim Cymbala (9) 191 pages. Good Book.

19. Erasing Hell, Francis Chan (10) 190 pages. Do you believe in a literal hell? Either way you need to read this book.

20.  Platform, Michael Hyatt (10) 227 pages. I have become a huge Michael Hyatt fan. He is the former CEO of Thomas Nelson. This book is how to expand your platform and get noticed in a noisy world.

21. Creating Your Life Plan (ebook), Michael Hyatt (9) 94 pages.

22. Becoming a Coaching Leader, Daniel Harkavy (7) 204 pages. Good book for anyone who is into leadership and life coaching.

23. Crush It, Gary Vaynerchuk, (6) 132 pages. A book on internet marketing recommended by Michael Hyatt.

24. The Complete Guide to Evernote, (5) Not sure about pages now. I love Evernote for staying organized. The book didn’t teach me much that I hadn’t already learned on my own.

How to Stay Married for a Long, Long time.

How to stay married for a long, long, time.  I try to keep my post at 300 to 500 words so that you will come back and read again so,  this subject might take several.

This past week Felicia and I celebrated our thirty-third wedding anniversary. Yes we married young. She was seventeen and about to begin her senior year in High School (and yes she did graduate) and I was nineteen. Two things I want you to know about us getting married so young. Number one, there was no baby on the way. We were married in August of 1979 and our first child was born in November of 1981. Just thought I’d clear the air. Number two; we do not recommend that people marry that young.

Now thirty-three years later I look back on our life together to this point and realize that us staying married was not just luck. So I thought I’d share with you over the next few post some tidbits that we have learned and some of the experiences that we have had along the way and how we handled them or didn’t handle them.

In August of 1979 when we first married so many people told us the same thing; “If you make it through the first year you’ll be ok.” “What did they mean by that”? “Was the first year going to be hard or something”? Questions I asked. How could it be hard? After all we were in love. We couldn’t stand being away from each other. The thought that we would be able to be together all of the time in our own house was just too much to resist.

We had been dating for a couple of years when we married. Our dating life was bliss. I knew I was going to have the most submissive wife in the world because during two years of dating Felicia never challenged or disagreed with me about anything. Not one time!

For years I’ve referred to dating as, “The Big Lie.” It’s the big lie because most people including me put their best foot forward when they are dating and try their best not to show their down sides and we all have them.

The bliss of our dating life crossed over into our married life for about one week and then it began.

I’m going to stop here for this particular post but let me assure you that thirty-three years later we are very happily married with three grown children and a brand new grandson.

What are some of your ideas about how to stay married a long time? Or what are some experiences that you have had that might be helpful to others?


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A Blue Snowball and Life’s Important Questions


There’s a lot  going on in my life and the life of my family right now. I’m sure that many of you have the same busy schedule that I have.  It just so happens that in the last few weeks my first grandchild was born (more about Jackson in a post yet to come) and we have been preparing for the wedding of our second daughter.

This evening we had a wedding shower at our church. At our church showers for people who attend regularly are a whole church Sunday evening event. Lauren and Trevor were blessed with some great stuff. The cleanup crew is tiding up the kitchen and I sit here in my office typing a message to my blog readers.

I have some ideas for some up coming blogs. One that I am particularly excited about is going to be called “How to stay married to the same person for a long, long time.” That one may take more than one post but I began thinking about it as Felicia and I celebrated our thirty-third anniversary this week and yes we were married very young, nineteen and seventeen.

I’ve also been studying and working toward the production of a podcast. I thought I would get started on that this afternoon so I hooked some equipment up to my MacBook Pro, opened up Garage Band and started working. The sound quality was HORRIBLE and while I may not be able (on my budget) to put together a studio quality production,  I’m not going to put anything out that sounds that bad.  So I began some research on a mic that can hook directly to my Mac and bypass all the other stuff. Right now it looks like I’m going to order a Blue Microphones Snowball from Amazon click on this link to see it. It’s going to cost less than $70 and every review I have read and watched gives it high praise. If you think I’m making a big mistake and have any advice I’d love to hear from you.

I would also love to hear from you with suggestions for blog post. What do you want me to write about? Seriously? Let me give you some parameters.  I am a pastor who loves to read Christian non-fiction, leadership and John Grisham books. I’m into life coaching and life in general. Ask me a question. Ask me what you think are life’s important questions and let’s see if I can answer them.

I hope to hear from you!!!

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Satan is up to his evil deeds, as usual.

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A Pastor and A Beer.

This is a post that I have much reservation about. I would never set myself up as a judge.

During the last year or so the subject has come up in my circles concerning Christians and Alcohol.  I belong to a network of churches and ministers that have long held that Christians should abstain from alcohol.  It was during my research that I first learned of  a particular, very influential pastor.

He is the founding pastor of a mega church and is one of the world’s most downloaded and quoted pastors. His audience-fans and critics alike-span the theological and cultural left and right.  This pastor was named one of the 25 Most Influential Pastors of the past 25 years by preaching magazine, and his sermons are consistently at the top on iTunes each week for Religion & Spirituality with over 10 million of downloads each year.”

I shared the information above from an internet site to establish the amount of credibility and influence this pastor has. I must tell you that in reading some of his stuff and listening to many of his podcast I enjoy most of what he has to say.

My problem with him is over alcohol. By his own admission he was never a drinker. Not in High School or College.

In a podcast that I listened to and a video I watched where alcohol was the subject this pastor admitted that he never drank until about three years ago.

Here is my problem. One of the most influential pastors in the world who is especially influential with young adults never drank but now has decided to be a drinker.  My question is why?

If you were never a drinker why would you as an adult who is a Christian leader decide to start drinking?

I have a problem with alcohol.  You can read my post Christians and Alcohol to see my argument. But let me pose this question. How many young Christians have decided to drink because a pastor or other Christian does? How many of those young Christians who may have never been drinkers but now are because of a pastor or another Christians influence become alcoholics? How many of them will never be able to influence another person to come to Christ because of alcohol? How many of them will die because of alcohol?

I believe God has called Christians to a higher standard. I also believe that men and women of God who have been given influence over others are called maybe even to a little higher standard.

From what I have learned of this pastor he is a great man with a heart for souls. He is a gifted speaker, writer and leader. My hat is off to him for what he has accomplished in his young life.  I hope in the years to come I could gain just a fraction of the influence that he has already gained.   I just don’t understand why?

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